LAW OF RELATIONSHIP FOR MEN ONLY

INTRODUCTION:

In the kingdom nothing is yours until you have full knowledge of it.
Some of us are frustrated, yet pray always. "Knowledge reduces frustrations in our prayer"

First, attend a premarital education class or premarital counseling. Eighty-nine percent of married couples who attended premarital education BEFORE marriage found it to be helpful down the road. Worthwhile classes will teach you communication skills and conflict management tools, along with addressing appropriate expectations.
Find a mentor couple. Seek out an older, more experienced, happily married couple to provide wisdom and support to you as you begin your adventure together.
Start thinking "We" instead of "Me." Marriage is a partnership. It will serve you well to remember you are on the same team. Make time to pursue activities together and explore common interests.
Talk about your expectations for marriage. What are your goals for your marriage? How will you decide who does what around the house? Who will manage the money? Discuss your goals to help ensure a successful marriage. Unrealistic and unmet expectations often lead to resentment.
Be committed. Since commitment is a choice, believing in the permanence of your marriage will actually help your relationship over the long haul.
Talk about money. Save yourselves a lot of future headaches by discussing your spending habits and spending plans and goals. Always spend less than you make, save a little for a rainy day and try to avoid debt.
Talk about children. Will you have children? If so, how many children would you like to have? When would you like to have kids? Will both of you work or will one of you stay home?
How will work/friends/family/social activities affect your marriage? Also, discuss boundaries for your marriage.

1. NEVER PROPOSE ANY LADY WHEN YOU ARE NOT SURE OF HER BEHAVIOR:

Don't propose because of her money. Don't propose because of her education, fame or beauty.

2. PROPOSE WHEN YOU SEE GOOD QUALITIES SUCH AS FOLLOWS:

Behavior; politeness; love; humility; neatness; wisdom; feminine; boldness; courage; born- again; and understanding.

3. DON'T PROPOSE ANY GIRL WHO THROWS HERSELF ON YOU:

such is only good for friendship. Don't propose any girl who is desperate to marry. Don't marry any girl who will be a liability to you.
- such who lost job
- such who lost parents
- such who is hated by her relations
- such whose entire dependent is on you

4. NEVER MARRY ANY GIRL OUT OF PITY:

Marry for true love; understanding; value; and for future in view.

5. DON'T HANG AROUND WITH A PARTICULAR GIRL YOU KNOW YOU WILL NOT MARRY:

Don't stay with a particular girl so often, it will ruin your reputation and future. If the girl is desperate for you, she will seduce you to bed, claim to be pregnant.

6. NEVER DATE OR COURT A GIRL AT ALL IF YOU CAN NOT AVOID CARESSING:

Romance = sexual and sensational discussion that can arouse sexual desire. Caress = touching the skin and some sensitive parts as to arouse sexual desire. Coition = the actual sexual intercourse. These three things can result during dating, courtship and engagement period. They should be avoided, else, it can result to unwanted pregnancy, abortion and death.

7. NEVER SHOW SERIOUSNESS WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY TO MARRY:

Never say "I will marry you during dating and courtship". Never propose until you are sure that you can cope up with the girl's background
- birth position
- training system
- family background and culture
- behavior and reasoning ability
* Engagement starts when she says "yes" to your proposal.

8. WHEN YOU DISCOVER THAT SHE PUSHES YOU TO PROPOSE RUN AWAY:

A desperate girl cannot make a good wife. Never propose any girl who wants to marry you at all cost.
- such gives you gifts
- such clocks for you
- such cleanse your house
- such sleeps with you
- such gives you her money to run the marriage rites.

9. NEVER SPEND YOUR MONEY ON A GIRL WHO IS NOT YET YOUR WIFE:

See her as a casual friend. Don't enter into a long or secret engagement. You may suffer heartbreaking when she dumps you.

10. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME ON A GIRL WHO NAGS ON YOU WHEN SEEN ANOTHER GIRL AROUND YOU:

She will nag all her life if married. She will monitor your calls and SMS. She will monitor every movement you make inside and outside. She will be tracking you even to your working place to know the people you greet, smiled at or laugh with.

11. LOOK FOR A HIGH CLASS GIRLS, NOT THE CHEAP LADIES:

Don't be afraid to approach them, they are looking for husbands. Even if they turn you down, continue, they are just testing your seriousness. Go to senior girls if you are interested in them. They are just waiting to hear you.

12. BEFORE YOU PROPOSE, FIND OUT THE FOLLOWINGS:

Does the lady delight in the Lord? Does she eat and dress moderately? Can she wait patiently? Does she love your parents? Will she bring peace into your family? What is her birth position and training system? Is she beautiful inside? Is she healthy and productive?
Be warned! Never taste the soup yet. It is not yours. If you taste it, you will be judged as a thief. So control yourself.

13. DON'T BORROW MONEY FOR MARRIAGE AND WEDDING:

Manage what you have. Cut your coat according to your cloth. You may not get the money to pay back. You do not invite people to raise fund for you, rather you want them to stand by you as witnesses. Your wedding is a fund raising either. So manage yourself.

14. DON'T WAIT UNTIL YOU HAVE ENOUGH MONEY:

Do it as a responsibility. Better grow with your children.

15. HAVE A FAMILY PLANNING NOW:

Work on the followings: How many children you need; spacing of your children and sexes of your children

16. PLAN YOUR WEDDING: TYPES OF WEDDINGS:

Societal wedding; low kit wedding or traditional/Church wedding at the same venue and time.